Being Beautiful

Today I really want to stop and think about what “beauty” really is…

Beauty is something all us women are very conscious of. We are surrounded by beautiful things everyday. Beautiful clothes, beautiful make-up, other beautiful woman. Magazines, slim girls, models, the best clothes, the gorgeous new fashion, best moisturiser for our face, how to get rid of blemishes, what to eat, how to loose weight, what to do to get the perfect body… The list goes on and on.

If you ask me, I’ve embraced this “perfect” world, I’ve learn’t to adapt, doing my best to fit in, to please, to try and find this “Idealism of perfection”. I am still very much aware of self image, how I “would” like to look, how I “would” like to be perceived by others. Then it gets deeper… This is how I “Should” look… This is how I “Should” be to fit in and when you don’t feel like you are… you somewhat feel empty, ashamed or even worse un-worthy. I empathise with you if you have ever come across these feelings. The funniest thing is I find I’m most happiest when I’m by the sea or on top of a hill, covered in mud and sweat, in the moment, with nature. No-ones judging you, it doesn’t matter if you haven’t got any make-up on, how your hair looks or what you’re wearing. You can be one with earth, the trees, land and the sea.

The thing is deep down in human nature we all want to be accepted, its a wonderful feeling to be loved. It gives us security, a sense of fulfilment and belonging. Our instant acceptance from the 21st century world we live in comes from… Social Media! We’re so in touch with the love we receive from people’s comments and likes on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat and so on that we probably miss the love from people, earths nature and the core beauty within us.

Social media in my eyes is the modern world of keeping up with the Jones’. If you’re neighbour had a white picket fence in the 50s, you’d get a white picket fence. If you’re friend on Facebook does a crazy selfie you might consider a crazy selfie. Your environment totally effects your development and growth as a person. The only thing is you start to think more about your outer hemisphere of you than your true beauty and peace inside. Sometimes you can get so lost in what others think of you, in trying to please them you loose the integrity of who you are and in doing so neglecting your inner beauty.

Food for thought…

Next time you flick through social media, get dressed up, look through magazines and start feeling any doubts about yourself, anxiety, envy for others beauty, what they have and you haven’t. Remember the chances of us being born into this world was literally one in a million and you are beautiful just the way you are! You don’t need make-up or the best clothes, pictures, lifestyle to prove anything to anyone. This is just the world we have learnt to adapt to in our “time”. It doesn’t define us, it’s just an extension of us in the world we live in. The true beauty lies within!

Thank you so much for reading. Love and smiles. ❤️😊❤️

rachelfanshawe